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Self-Help Techniques for Fear and Anxiety

Tamela on Good Day Charlotte talking about fear and anxiety

This week I joined Good Day Charlotte to talk about fear. Just in time for Halloween! As I explain in the interview, most of what we experience in modern life is “anxiety” not “fear.” With self-awareness, we can distinguish between the two and respond appropriately. Anxiety Relief without Drugs or Therapy …

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Today is Face Your Fears Day: Why are we Afraid of Clowns?

Heath Ledger's portrayal of the insane Joker may have led to escalating fear of clowns

“Aren’t you afraid?”  In my travels, I’ve seen beautiful sites and met phenomenal people. And yet, the most common question I’m asked about my travels isn’t “What’s your favorite national park,” instead it’s “Aren’t you afraid?”  I talked about this in my interview for “Face Your Fears Day”  this morning and the …

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3 Reasons Why Autumn is the Perfect Time to Learn to Ride a Motorcycle

Here I tell Good Day Charlotte why autumn is a great time to learn to ride a motorcycle

If you’ve been thinking “I need to learn how to ride a motorcycle,” autumn is the perfect season to do so. Why? Reason #1: Perfect Weather As I told Good Day Charlotte, the weather is perfect now (at least in the temperate zones like Charlotte, North Carolina). You’ll be able to …

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Why I’m Writing a Book about Fear and Anxiety

These are a few of the books I used to research my book on FEAR

FIVE years ago I learned to ride a motorcycle, and since then I’ve traveled the lower 48 states and parts of five Canadian provinces on my bike. Mostly solo. Take to the open road on a motorcycle and you’ll learn plenty about your relationship with fear. I’ve survived punishing weather, distracted …

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Vacation Makeover: Solve 5 Common Vacation Problems

Never take a miserable road trip again. Use Tamela's tips

All too often vacations—even holiday weekends—don’t meet our expectations. The kids are bored and grouchy, you’re overrunning your budget, and the amusement parks are beginning to look the same. Does it really have to be this way? Here’s how families can transform their next vacation into one that is peaceful, …

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A Solo Road Trip: 8 ways to Relaunch Your Life

It’s the time of year when many people take stock of their lives, their goals and dreams, and make plans to change. We purchase new gym memberships, vow to be better parents, resolve to do more in our communities, and even make new career plans. But what if your life …

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Ted Simon: Lessons about Purposeful Travel

Tam with Ted Simon

I spent last week at the beach with my spouse. I enjoy sitting at the water’s edge as I read, write, contemplate and doze, but I’m not often in the water past my knees. When Matt takes his fishing pole out to the surf, I fall into a lull watching him …

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Six Ways to Respond when Someone Says, “I Have Cancer”

Knowing what to say when someone reveals a scary diagnosis will help you both. Here are six tips

Everyone knows someone with cancer or another life-threatening illness, but few of us know how to talk about it.  Researching my book, Live Full Throttle: Life Lessons From Friends Who Faced Cancer, I interviewed more than 100 people who have faced one of life’s ultimate sinkholes. They told me stories about …

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A Child Bride’s 30th Wedding Anniversary

Me and Matt at Yellowstone National Park circa 2012

My odometer hasn’t turned over in eight weeks. Why? I’ve been blessed with a great deal of client work AND have been writing the first draft of my new book, Life Lessons from the Road: Riding Deep into the Soul. The book needs to sit and steep for a few …

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Runnin’ Shotgun with Dad and a CB Radio

the national 55 mph speed limit kicked up a rebellious streak in Americans and started a CB radio craze

In preparation for our bi-annual road trip, Dad installed a mobile CB unit in the station wagon and everyone in the family chose their "handles," which was sort of like choosing your Twitter name today.

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