Prompt: What are 11 things your life doesn’t need in 2011? How will you go about eliminating them? How will getting rid of these 11 things change your life?
Sure, I could make a list of 11 mostly-trivial things to get rid of this year. But what kept coming to my mind were the things other people want me to get rid of that I’m not ready to purge. Do I purge for their sake and feel bitter? I need to reframe my “loss” as a sacrifice for the relationship. The other people also need to reframe their exasperation, methinks, and accept some of this as part of my quirkiness and charm –a real stretch! Such is the give and take of community.
I’m not one of those pack rats they make TV shows about, but I’m loathe to get rid of a book or ANY reading materials. Instead of beating myself up for this (there’s plenty of others willing to do that anyway) I’ve taken to the Buddhist approach of “noticing” my feelings and being gentle with myself as I struggle. Eventually the time comes when I can take that big step and walk a stack (ok, stacks) of magazines to the recycling bin. I’m learning to accept that I can’t read everything I’d like to and feel that I need to. BREATHE.
I always hire someone to help me clean and organize my international headquarters (!) because inevitably I run across things I don’t need any longer that are perfectly good and I might need some day blah blah blah. If I have to throw it out with my own hands (or designate it for charity) it’s much harder than telling my assistant to “do what you want with it.” We all have our coping mechanisms.
Back to the prompt. I’m committed to getting rid of 60 things called pounds. I’m a weightlifter by virtue of hauling myself around every day. I will get rid of them by faithfully tracking my daily foods and activities in this great little phone app. When I drop a modest 5# every month I’ll have succeeded by this time next year! I’ve got tons of clothes that I love that are just waiting for me to slip into them and I’ll feel sooooo much better when I’m back at my proper weight.