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Often based on the life lessons I’ve learned about myself, these posts are more philosophical than those categorized as “perspective.”

The “Ambition Dress” and Extending My Middle Age

Tam with Shepherd Center Seniors

Yes, that's me with a group of seniors in Charlotte, North Carolina, as part of the Shepherd Center Author Series. 

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Celebrating Six Years on a Motorcycle

Tamela on her BMW motorcycle on a windy road

Six years ago this month I decided to learn to ride a motorcycle. Since then I've traveled 47 states and 5 provinces on my trusty BMW G 650 GS—often solo.

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Finding Courage to Relaunch Your Life

The "Courage" card that Jeri made for my birthday

My dear friend Jeri and I learned how to be grownups together.

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Thoughts on Managing a Working Vacation

Whether walking the beach or working, be fully present on your working vacation

While I love exploring the country, there's a lot to be said for staying in one place.

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Lessons on Gift Exchanges: Stuff ≠ Love

This is what a Play-Doh elementary school project looks like after 20 years of dessication

I met "Sheri" a few years ago on my book tour and she got in touch when she moved to Charlotte (my city) in March. She arrived at exactly the same time we were moving out of our suburban four-bedroom home into a smaller urban townhouse and came over to preview the massive yard sale that took us weeks of preparation. She bought a few things that she admitted she didn't need and I was happy to sell them.

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Middle Aged Motorcycling Urges

Biker Bunnies with my bike in Lava Hot Springs

The man, on the other hand, took action. "Hey, ladies. Are you the biker bunnies with those motorcycles out in the parking lot?"

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Putting Myself in Time Out

My ever-patient friend and traveling companion, Jill

Yesterday I talked about repairing my gas tank cap with duct tape, and I promised to tell the back story. Here it is, and it has a lot to do with impatience.

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Ode to Duct Tape

I never appreciated the versatility of duct tape before I became a motorcyclist. Here's a story of how it saved the day while riding off road in Nevada.

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Biker Talk 101

Just like the evening news, people seem to want to lead with what bleeds as a conversation starter. Not a productive start to a relationship eh?

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It’s Never Too Late!

Shirly learned to ride a motorcycle in her 70's! Isn't she radiant?

Meet my friend Shirly, from southern, Idaho. I met her in 2010 in Cheyenne, Wyoming when we Conga riders rallied. She was 78 at the time!

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